Singing in the Rain: Weathering the Storm of Dementia with Humor, Love, & Patience is a book about dementia caregiving that is meant to be an emotional outlet for caregivers of loved ones newly diagnosed. It also introduces them to valuable skills and ways of looking at behavior that will be helpful in their situation. We decided to publish our e-mails so that other caregivers would not feel so alone and isolated, and would realize that they too are doing the best that they can given the trying circumstances!
As you begin to read, you are introduced to us, Ann & Vicky, your two new best friends you never knew you had. We will guide you through the last three years in our husbands lives: Ralph with Lewy body dementia and Jim with Alzheimer's.
The book is written in e-mail format, because these are the exact e-mails we wrote to each other, acting as each other's primary emotional support during our individual journeys. Our emails were a way of sharing our days without taking away from the caregiving job at hand. It gave each of us a way to be heard, and a way to release our frustrations, and find solutions to sticky situations.
Once you begin, it will be hard for you to put it down!
How do I get a copy of the book?
It is available at www.amazon.com in both paperback and e-reader format. You can also order it from www.barnesandnoble.com but it is not in bookstores because it is self-published.
It is also available here through the link below for $15.95.
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Co-author Ann Henderberg & How We Met
Ann and I met in a support group for caregivers. There was a special chemistry between us despite the 14 years that separated us. Our personalities clicked, we could finish each others sentences. Even though we had relatively different backgrounds, we were in the same place emotionally. We were drawn to each other to share our day-to- day experiences, frustrations, hopes, and fears.
Our men, Jim and Ralph, were becoming close in their support group for folks diagnosed with dementia. They were both sensitive and caring guys. The four of us met monthly for lunch, and shared some family get-togethers. So as not to hurt our spouses, Ann and I really needed time away from them to share what we were going through. But as time marched on, that idea of leaving them alone became more and more impossible. It led us to e-mailing each other with descriptions of our days and the wide swings of emotion that we experienced as caregivers. Without realizing it, we had become each other's primary emotional support. It was that invaluable bond that helped us to come out of the dementia experience healthier and happier people!
Ann was a stay-at-home mom who only joined the work force after her four children were "mostly grown". She held many jobs in health related fields. She volunteered cuddling babies at our local hospital, and is now a council member of the residents' committee for the senior living community where she lives. She loves needle work, music, reading, and overnights with her grandchildren.
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