In this world, we need to love and be loved. We also need to feel a sense of competence or mastery in order to feel good about ourselves. Alzheimer’s slowly dismantles a person’s sense of competence. While living with this disease, the AD person and their spouse, family members, or caregiver(s) do an emotional dementia dance where the steps are always new and always changing.
Many of us will be faced with caregiving when our children are long grown and we are watching our grandchildren grow up. Some of us are faced with caregiving in our 40’s while our children are just beginning adulthood … or even earlier! We were one of those in the sandwich generation, helping take care of our parents and children at the same time. A bit later, I was faced with caring for my husband too.