Reflections - Articles From The Heart

Under Reflections you will find my thoughts about varying topics that interest or perplex me. I will try to make new posts bi-weekly. Right now as you can see, I'm just trying to get the site up and running. Be patient, they will be worth the wait.

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Our Book - What, How, & Why

Please click on Our Book to learn more about Singing in the Rain: Weathering the Storm of Dementia with Humor, Love, & Patience written with my co-author, Ann Henderberg. We met in support group for caregivers of loved ones with dementia in 2008. We became fast friends very quickly and supported each other throughout our last three years of caregiving. When you begin reading it, you'll discover two friends you never knew you had who will help you on our very personal journey. You'll be glad you did!

There is an opportunity to purchase directly on that page.

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Thoughts On Dementia - Learn New Things

Learning to adjust when a loved one has dementia is unlike anything  we have learned before. It takes all new skills and adjustments we must make in ourselves .... because our loved ones can't. It takes a lot of trial and error, thinking what it must be like to be "in their shoes", and learning the gift of living "in the moment". Learn more under Thoughts On Dementia.

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My Main Message

Today there are 5.5 million Americans diagnosed with dementia. Only about 10-13% of  their caregivers seek help and support according to the Alzheimer's Association. People with dementia are also rarely diagnosed in the very early stages of the disease (10%). Denial by friends and family is alive and well in the US. If we ignore it, maybe it will just go away!

The earlier people are diagnosed, the more opportunity we have to learn about the disease and be more open to others, which is empowering for the caregiver and the person with dementia. This leads to a restructuring of our lives with the added support we will need as we go forward. The more help and support we gather behind us as we take this journey, the less anxiety and frustration we will experience, and the more productive this journey will be. I hope to be a part of that.

I intend to instill hope, strength, and courage not only for those who are beginning the dementia caregiver road, but also for those who have survived the journey and are starting over without a loved one. Yes, life presents us with opportunities disguised as obstacles. Life is a test, and how we get through that test and what we learn from it is our legacy.


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