Welcome to www.vickyruppert.com! I am pleased you have stopped by in your web travels. Let me introduce the various parts of my website. Moving On is in blog style and covers various topics about moving on in life after the death of a loved-one, in my case, my sweet husband Jim. He succumbed to hereditary Alzheimer’s after 19 years with the disease.
The topics can be broad, serious, or funny depending on their content. We all have struggles in life, hidden or exposed, but they are there for all of us. I hope you will find the articles in Moving On amusing and helpful!
Please click on Our Book to learn more about Singing in the Rain: Weathering the Storm of Dementia with Humor, Love, & Patience written with my co-author, Ann Henderberg. We met in support group for caregivers of loved-ones with dementia in 2008. We became fast friends very quickly and supported each other throughout our last three years of caregiving. We have been told by many readers that once you begin reading it, you’ll discover two friends you never knew you had who will take you on our very personal journey.
Our book was recently (October 10th, 2020) taken off of the Amazon printing service, but you might be able locate a copy….see that page. The book has been available since 2013 and it would need to be revamped and republished. At this point in our lives, we wanted to move on in life rather than spend the time on a new addition. We hope you will understand.
Learning to adjust when a loved one has dementia is unlike anything we have learned before. It takes all new skills and adjustments we must make in ourselves …. because our loved ones can’t. It takes a lot of trial and error, thinking what it must be like to be “in their shoes”, and learning the gift of living “in the moment”. Learn more under Thoughts On Dementia.
My Main Message
Today there are 5.5 million Americans diagnosed with dementia. Only about 10-13% of their caregivers seek help and support according to the Alzheimer’s Association. People with dementia are also rarely diagnosed in the very early stages of the disease (10%). Denial by friends and family is alive and well in the US. Unfortunately, ignoring the symptoms won’t make the dementia go away!
The earlier people are diagnosed, the more opportunity we have to learn about the disease and be more open to others, which is empowering for the person with dementia as well as the caregiver . This leads to a restructuring of our lives with the added support we will need going forward. The more help and support we gather behind us as we take this journey, the less anxiety and frustration we will experience, and the more productive this journey will be for all involved. I hope to be a part of that.
I intend to instill hope, strength, and courage not only for those who are beginning the dementia caregiver road, but also for those who have survived the journey and are starting life over without a loved one. Yes, life presents us with opportunities disguised as obstacles. Life is a test, and how we get through that test and what we learn from it is our legacy.
No one chooses to have dementia, and not many choose to be a dementia caregiver as one of their life goals. It’s what we do with it, how we accept it and change with the challenges that makes it a success!
National Alzheimer’s Association (USA) www.alz.org
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